When it comes to female sexuality, myths and misconceptions have been around for centuries. Some come from outdated medical beliefs, others from pop culture, and many from simple misunderstandings. These myths often shape how women see themselves, how partners approach intimacy, and how society talks about sex.

It’s time to sort fact from fiction. Here are ten of the most common myths about female sexuality—and the truths that replace them.

Quick Reference — Myths & Truths

1. Women Don’t Think About Sex as Often as Men

The stereotype suggests men are constantly preoccupied with sex, while women rarely are. Our research, however, shows women also experience frequent sexual thoughts—just not always in the same way. For many women, desire can be more context-driven, meaning emotions, environment, and relationship dynamics play a larger role.

Truth: Women think about sex, but frequency and triggers vary from person to person.

2. The First Time Always Hurts

Many people grow up believing pain is an unavoidable part of a woman’s first sexual experience. While discomfort is possible, especially if nerves or lack of lubrication are factors, pain is not inevitable. Misinformation and anxiety often contribute more to the experience than biology.

Truth: With communication, relaxation, and adequate preparation, pain does not have to be part of first-time sex.

3. Women Don’t Enjoy Casual Sex

This myth stems from the assumption that women only value emotional intimacy, while men are the ones seeking physical connection. In reality, plenty of women enjoy casual encounters when they feel safe, respected, and in control of the circumstances.

Truth: Women’s sexual preferences are as individual as men’s—some enjoy casual sex, others don’t.

4. Orgasms Are Guaranteed During Penetration

Movies and media often portray intercourse as the surefire route to orgasm. In truth, studies show that the majority of women need clitoral stimulation to reach climax, and penetration alone is often not enough.

Truth: Orgasms can happen in different ways, and clitoral stimulation is usually key.

5. Older Women Lose Interest in Sex

Aging does bring hormonal changes, but interest in sex doesn’t automatically vanish. In fact, many women report more satisfying sexual experiences later in life thanks to confidence, communication skills, and fewer social pressures.

Truth: Sexual desire doesn’t have an expiration date.

6. Good Sex Is Always Spontaneous

Romantic comedies make it seem like passion should spark without effort. But in real life, busy schedules, stress, and responsibilities mean spontaneous sex isn’t always practical. Many couples find planned intimacy just as satisfying—sometimes even more so.

Truth: Scheduled sex can be fulfilling and exciting, not a sign of a lack of passion.

7. Women Are Naturally Less Sexual Than Men

This myth reduces sexuality to a gendered comparison. In reality, women can and do have strong sex drives, and levels of desire vary widely across both men and women. Social expectations often play a bigger role than biology in how sexuality is expressed.

Truth: Women’s sex drives are just as valid and varied as men’s.

8. Masturbation Is Only for Men

For generations, women were discouraged from acknowledging their own sexual pleasure. Masturbation was even labeled harmful in old medical texts. Today, it’s well understood that self-exploration is normal, healthy, and beneficial for women of all ages. In fact, there is not a single woman who hasn't masturbated, and women masturbate quite frequently. 

Truth: Masturbation is a natural part of sexual health for women, just as it is for men.

9. A Woman’s Libido Depends on Her Partner

Some believe that if a woman isn’t interested in sex, it must be because her partner isn’t attractive or “good enough.” In reality, a woman’s libido can fluctuate for many reasons—stress, health, sleep, hormones, or personal circumstances.

Truth: Sexual desire is complex and influenced by far more than partner attractiveness.

10. Talking About Sex Ruins the Mood

Open communication about likes, dislikes, and boundaries is sometimes framed as awkward or unsexy. But the opposite is usually true: talking honestly creates more intimacy, builds trust, and leads to more satisfying encounters.

Truth: Communication is one of the strongest foundations of a fulfilling sex life.

Final Thoughts

Female sexuality is full of nuance, shaped by biology, psychology, and personal experience. Dispelling myths not only clears the air but also helps create healthier, more open conversations about intimacy. When women and their partners let go of outdated assumptions, they can approach sexuality with curiosity, respect, and confidence.