10 Common Myths About Female Sexuality—Busted

Quick facts and corrections for healthier conversations about intimacy

Myth

Women don’t think about sex much

Fact: Women do think about sex, but desire is often context-driven.

Myth

First time always hurts

Fact: Pain isn’t inevitable with preparation and comfort.

Myth

Women don’t enjoy casual sex

Fact: Many women enjoy it when they feel safe and respected.

Myth

Intercourse alone guarantees orgasm

Fact: Most women need clitoral stimulation for orgasm.

Myth

Older women lose interest in sex

Fact: Desire can continue and even improve with age.

Myth

Good sex is always spontaneous

Fact: Planned intimacy can be equally fulfilling.

Myth

Women are naturally less sexual than men

Fact: Sex drives vary widely, not by gender alone.

Myth

Masturbation is only for men

Fact: Self-exploration is normal and healthy for women.

Myth

Libido depends on partner attractiveness

Fact: Desire is shaped by stress, health, and mood.

Myth

Talking about sex kills the mood

Fact: Communication usually enhances intimacy.